Do men need advice when it comes to keeping their relationships healthy? Indeed they do. What is it that men who want long term, healthy relationships need to know? Sociologists give us some valuable insight.
Here is a piece of information for men that is of prime importance: Watch women's actions. It's not as important WHAT they say they want as it is what their ACTIONS say they want. Confused? It's not really confusing if you think about it. Let's use as an example the kind of man a woman chooses.
How about a woman who says a sense of humor is the most important quality in a man. But then she only goes with men who have money. Or she says she likes a good listener, but then dates men who dominate the conversation.
Why would a woman say one thing but do another? Because there are subconscious motivators that get couples together. And therein lies the relationship advice for men.
The historical, biological reason for men and women to get together is to propagate the species. In other words, just because getting pregnant may be the last thing on her conscious mind, when she evaluates a man at the subconscious level, shes still looking for a good papa for her children. Is the good father someone who listens to her? Sociologists say no. It is someone who will provide for her children. Someone who has the confidence to bring home the bacon.
Sociologists teach us that the average man can father children into his old age. A woman, however, has only about 400 chances of conceiving a baby during her menstrual years. Subconsciously she is looking for a man who can provide stability and longevity for her children. She evaluates a man based on this. A lawyer is a better choice than an unemployed artist. But she must also perceive that her man is generous with his resources thus assuring her he will provide for her children. This is one reason women place high value on gifts that show a generous spirit, such as jewelry.
This is something men may not understand about the engagement ring. The engagement ring is not just a romantic gesture, it is an outward display that a man will provide for the woman and her children. Thus she wants a large purchase.
Women are still programmed to think of strength as enhancing the ability to provide. A woman is hard wired, for instance, to choose an athlete over a computer geek. Today people usually make more money from their brain than their brawn, but her subconscious is telling something else
So, men, learn from what the sociologists have taught us. Consider what thousands of years of history has programmed into your woman. When you do that, you will know what she really wants. Then give it to her.
Here is a piece of information for men that is of prime importance: Watch women's actions. It's not as important WHAT they say they want as it is what their ACTIONS say they want. Confused? It's not really confusing if you think about it. Let's use as an example the kind of man a woman chooses.
How about a woman who says a sense of humor is the most important quality in a man. But then she only goes with men who have money. Or she says she likes a good listener, but then dates men who dominate the conversation.
Why would a woman say one thing but do another? Because there are subconscious motivators that get couples together. And therein lies the relationship advice for men.
The historical, biological reason for men and women to get together is to propagate the species. In other words, just because getting pregnant may be the last thing on her conscious mind, when she evaluates a man at the subconscious level, shes still looking for a good papa for her children. Is the good father someone who listens to her? Sociologists say no. It is someone who will provide for her children. Someone who has the confidence to bring home the bacon.
Sociologists teach us that the average man can father children into his old age. A woman, however, has only about 400 chances of conceiving a baby during her menstrual years. Subconsciously she is looking for a man who can provide stability and longevity for her children. She evaluates a man based on this. A lawyer is a better choice than an unemployed artist. But she must also perceive that her man is generous with his resources thus assuring her he will provide for her children. This is one reason women place high value on gifts that show a generous spirit, such as jewelry.
This is something men may not understand about the engagement ring. The engagement ring is not just a romantic gesture, it is an outward display that a man will provide for the woman and her children. Thus she wants a large purchase.
Women are still programmed to think of strength as enhancing the ability to provide. A woman is hard wired, for instance, to choose an athlete over a computer geek. Today people usually make more money from their brain than their brawn, but her subconscious is telling something else
So, men, learn from what the sociologists have taught us. Consider what thousands of years of history has programmed into your woman. When you do that, you will know what she really wants. Then give it to her.
About the Author:
Antonio MacGynn contributes to About the Family, a blog dedicated to family issues. He has learned that most broken relationships can be repaired, but can't be done without understanding the subconscious motivators that get couples together. Unfortunately, most people who want to repair their relationships instinctively do exactly the wrong thing. Avoid the wrong steps and Repair the Relationship.
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